Guitar Hero

Child Abuse Because Your Child is Spoiled

by Minority Fortune

Here it is just a few days into the new year, and we’ve already found our first Grade F model. That title belongs to R&B producer/ songwriter/ artist Teddy Riley. While we’re not sure how active he is in the music industry these days, he had a busy music career during the mid-late nineties. Apparently, he took all that money and wasted it away on his daughters. The only thing is that he doesn’t like the young adults that they have turned into.

A dreadful incident occurred right before the New Years as Teddy attacked his daughters with a guitar from the Guitar Hero game. Pictures and tweets surfaced over the incident, and it’s not a good look. What’s even worse is that Teddy excused the behavior by saying that his daughters were extremely spoiled to the point that it’s unbearable. He wrote the following:

Due to recent events, I am compelled to respond in detail to accusations made against me, by my daughters.

I love my Daughters, but I will not allow my children to disrespect me in my home. Contrary to what I have been accused of, I would never beat my children.

Perhaps, I should have been a stronger disciplinarian as they were growing up. I worked very hard so that my children would want for nothing.

In hindsight, I see that it was a mistake to give them everything they wanted so that they could have the childhood I never had. Unfortunately, they have taken me, and the privileged life I have given them, completely for granted.

Instead of being appreciative and realizing how fortunate they are, my children have an inflated sense of entitlement and expectation without having to work or earn their way.

However, my ‘children’ are no longer children, they are adults and I am trying to instill in them values and a work ethic of their own. My mother always told me “too many grown people can’t live in one house” so I encourage them to have their own homes if they cannot abide by the rules of mine. I am not an uptight Dad, I am as hip as they come but I will not tolerate being taken advantage of or disrespected, especially in my home.

I’ve been working since the age of 14, I bought my first car by myself. Nobody gave me a car. My kids don’t even remember their first car. I grew up with 6 of us in an apartment fighting over one bathroom. My kids have never had to share a bathroom, let alone a bedroom.

I’m asking everyone to let this one go… I’m only being a good parent. I’m a great father and everyone who knows me, knows this is true.

Thank you so much,

With all my love,

Teddy Riley

Dear Teddy,

Violence is never the answer. Furthermore, you shouldn’t forget your crucial role in spoiling your daughters and playing a role in their unsatisfactory behaviors towards finances. Instead of attacking your young adult daughters, you should have taken that guitar and hit yourself instead.

The result of parents who overindulge their children always ends in disaster. Instead of checking the behavior at a young age, you overrided issues with money. If your daughters are indeed ungrateful and spoiled, you had a major responsibility in developing and growing these characteristics. It’s like the scientist who created Frankenstein. You created the monster.

Money is not love. This is often done in new wealth and even hardly wealthy households. Parent think giving their children the world is the right thing to do. In doing that, they ignore teaching them key concepts like humility, savings, control, helping others, work ethic, and financial discipline.

Even though you may have experienced the peak of their entitlement on that fateful night, you should not have reacted in violence. It goes to show that you gave away control a long time ago with your daughters. Trying to address the problem now when your children are of college age is like trying to swim upstream against a current in sub-zero temperatures.

Your only resort at this point is to seek family and financial therapy. Your daughters probably have a dependency on your money, but you enabled the behavior for all this time. Again, violence is not the answer and may result in you being jailed. Get it together. Be proactive not reactive.


Minority Fortune

We don’t often discuss the concept of financial discipline of children, but this catastrophe happens often and doesn’t go addressed. We plan to do a follow-up post on this matter.

*Image courtesy of Megazine Media.
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